Friendship among women is such a sore spot for me along with probably every woman in the world. I have had experiences where I felt like a girlfriend had betrayed my trust and I have been the girlfriend who have betrayed trust. So, I have been during a lot of thinking about what would make relationships between two women meaningful and successful. I have realized that going through heartbreak over the demise of a relationship with a girlfriend is that every relationship that a human has, will and can be tested. I think the work comes in after you react to the situation. Because, after you react, you have to make the decision to proceed with the relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I understand that one can be angry, name call, and scream………… what happens after that? Why is forgiveness so hard to adopt after a “blow out” with a friend, why isn’t a couple days (or weeks) away from each other ever enough?Females will fall out for years just to reconcile after, all that time wasted………. for what? One thing that I learned is the beauty of forgiveness. I’m at the point in my journey, that I want to live in forgiveness and keep it moving because it takes too much energy to live in bitterness. I have lost countless nights without sleep because of my pride, not wanting to be the “weak” one and my unwillingness to forgive a girlfriend because of my hurt feelings. Someone proposed a question to me, “If Jesus could forgive the ones responsible for his cruxifixation, why won’t we gravitate to forgiveness; our pain will never be as great as his?” I understood that, but most importantly, I applied it to my daily living. I don’t know if one day we as women will totally evolve into women who can forgive freely and wholeheartedly. I do believe if we take the time uplift and empower one another instead of “hating” or envying what the next girl has; that this world would be a less “cattier” place and we could accomplish so much more collectively and independently. My sisters, let’s love one another instead of tearing each other down.