I was talking with a an associate awhile back and the topic of happiness become the subject of conversation. She believed that if her spouse would act right and be the man that she felt he should be; that she would find happiness. I told her that I could understand how her man carelessness could contribute to her unhappiness, but he did not define her happiness. I mean really, if he was perfect; would she be happy. See, the way I see it is that we are responsible for our own happiness. God has given us a gift of freewill ,that permits us to play a significant part of our destiny. We posess the authority to make the decisions in our lives, therefore we cause a lot of our unhappiness. So, why do we give our spouses, kids, friends, and co-workers the authority to control our happiness. Why do we allow their decisions control our emotions and thought process. We have the control to make our lives productive or stagnant and most of the time we freely choose to live with limitations. So today, we have to stop giving people so much credit and choose to live in happiness in spite of our situations. Let no one control your happiness, you will NEVER live in it and will spend all your days trying to caught it. You will chase after meaningless and material things, things that wither away. The way I see it is that we have the answer in ourselves, and the BIG MAN upstairs (Jesus, of course) gave us a freewill and strength to fight through any hardship to reach happiness. I love you and be encouraged!