Okay, so I’m talking to an old friend and she tells me that she run into her first love and by her flustered disposition, I could tell that it bothered her a little. So, now I’m left with the question, do you ever get over the first person you ever loved? Is it just natural to be drawn to the first person you gave your heart to? Is it worth holding to? This got me thinking about my own experiences when it comes to dealing with the hurt and denial of moving on pass my first love. Why is this person so significant to who I was, am, and hope to be? Why does their opinion matter? Why do their feelings mean so much to me? I am pretty sure that many of us suffer with that truth and I do wish that I had the cure or could help you get over it faster.
So thinking about this, force me to look deeper into my emotions and feelings. I came up with the conclusion that of course it’s normal to take a while to get over your first love. This is the person that you first made yourself vulnerable to, the first person that you trusted with all your heart. The person who made your heart skip a beat every time you saw them; the first person you could stay in a lip lock for hours; the first person you literally stayed up all night to talk about absolutely nothing; and the first person who you was first intimate with. I think that it’s an unspoken bond between you and your first love, that no matter where you go or who you are with; you will forever be connected.
When my husband and I first got married, we bumped into his first love. They stood there for almost a half of hour catching up and I could see that twinkle in both of their eyes, that gave them that wimpy feeling that only they could understand. Even though I didn’t enjoy that he was experiencing something so natural, I understood. I understood because I have that same bond with my first love. I understood because it’s one of those loves that you don’t want to forget and that lingers in your memory like a catchy jingle. Everyone has that same story, none of us are exempt and it’s nothing to be ashamed of; it was a life experience. It usually shapes the nature of your future relationships.
So yes, I do think that it is normal to always feel drawn to your first love, it’s only natural to fondly remember that special someone who you first loved. Please share your story of your first love with me and the DBLOG family.